Tuesday, April 26, 2011

Remembering Gary Day!

Word of Warning... post may bring some to tears......

Now this picture brings back some memories!!! This was taken in 1974 right before we got married!

Saturday, April 26, 2003 11:40 am  the moment my life changed forever.... the day my dear sweet Gary died, my husband of  28 1/2 years, the father of my daughters, the grandfather my grandbabies would never know.  I can go back to that time in a blink of an eye, I have a video in my mind I can replay from the day we learned he had cancer, till the very day he died...  I loved him with all of my being,  he was a good, kind and loving husband and father....  With each grandchild that has been born I have wept, because they would never know him,  with each milestone made in each of my daughters lives because he was not here!  Yes, Life does go on (and by the way do not tell a grieving person, life goes on or it will get better, they do not want to hear that, trust me)  .... but it is never the same when you lose someone so very dear to you!  Oh... YES I also have a video that I can replay of all the wonderful memories we made together, how proud he was of his daughters, how he delighted in hearing their voices and sometimes giving them lectures on the phone (even though he sometimes knew they really were not listening he kept talking anyway!)

Since I have remarried...  some may think I do not care anymore.. but that is the farthest thing from the truth!  There is not a day goes by that I do not think of Gary!

Lonliness is a horrible thing to endure.... So just let me say this... if you have someone in your life that has lost their mate and they are alone... take them to lunch now and then... take them to a movie, take them to Sunday Dinner....Call them!  See if they need help with something they would not of ordinarily have done...  And still while you are doing all of this with them and for them they still feel ALONE in the world....  I am so thankful for my family and friends who walked through the valley with me.  I am thankful I have a Savior who Loves me and Comforted me when no one on this earth could!  I HAVE A HOPE in Christ that I will see Gary one day in Heaven!



  1. Oh Nancy ... I am crying , for I lost my husband 3 years ago, I know this loneliness you are talking about . I am in my 60s and it is not easy to meet someone else to keep you company . (They are all old men! )lol . And when you had the perfect man , nobody seams to fill the bill.
    Anyway , I know what you are saying , and once you have lost a spouce you feel for others going through the same thing . You will meet Gary again in Heaven , and it will be a wonderful reunion .

  2. What sweet words and a beautiful love you and Gary must have had. Thanks for making me cry just as you warned!


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